Mounting data on the rise of bullying cases at home and school is taking global attention and we can only hope that this time it is taken more seriously.
While the tormenters and mean girls are huge threats, guardians and educators who abuse their power on children they are entrusted to protect should be addressed to. There are several resources and materials all addressing kid to kid bullying. This leaves a glaring absence of information resources and statistics on adult school bullies.
There are a whole lot of theories and suggestions when a child bullies a child bullies a fellow child; ignore them and they’ll stop, report to the class teacher, ask for help from your parents and any teachers. But what do they do when the bully is an adult in charge? Ignore the teacher? Fight back? Or other options that are seldom viable and often than not, get them into more trouble. In most cases, reporting to the Dean or principal becomes tricky.
When the bullying takes physical forms, such as corporal punishment, most parents’ first instinct would be reporting. What of verbal and emotional bullying? Parents/Guardians are most likely caught in dilemma. This is because they are in fear of making things worse for the child when they report. Whilst this is a valid concern, keeping quite/ ignoring bullying complaints from your child might just make it worse for them.
So in that case, what are some of the ways parents and guardians can handle a bully teacher?
Talk with your child: Reassure ad Support
For any person, bullying is not easy. It is therefore your responsibility as a parent to talk to your child and show that you care. Make them feel loved and cared for. Showing them you care will make them even more open about the happenings at school and how they really feel. Be open even as you decide on your next step.
Document all the bullying instances.
Whenever your child reports a teacher that constantly targets and bullies, document it. The date, the witnesses, the time etc. This will come in handy when you report to the school as no one can ignore clear evidence.
Follow the chain of command
Teaching is a noble profession. In fact most teachers are well trained and skilled to handle children and do it so well. However, there are other who do not handle their responsibilities well and in some cases end up bullying innocent children. Before reporting any cases to higher authorities, as a parent, ensure you have explored all possible resolutions at lower levels first. For example, you can start with the class teacher. Then from there you can meet with the teacher and express your concerns.
Unfortunately for some schools, school heads let bully teacher cases go unchallenged. The consequences of zero action have adverse effects on the child. This is because the teacher is more likely to bully the child more. If this happens to you, file a formal complaint and do not forget to keep records of all the communications, including messages and phone calls.
Bully teachers battle is one that our kids can’t fight on their own. As a parent or guardian, never assume that bullying will end after some time. It will not go away without intervention. Additionally, leaving your child in a bullying environment is the worst you can do your child’s mental health. Do everything possible and if nothing changes, transferring your kid to another school. They don’t get over it with time.
Has your child ever encountered a bully teacher? What did you do?